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Ways to make new friends – Outside of school

Ways to make new friends – Outside of school

When we were kids making friends was pretty easy. You would be able to meet kids in school, sports practices, clubs, after-school activities, or even camp. When we were young we had so many opportunities to meet new people and to make new friends. Unfortunately, we don’t get all those opportunities as abundant as they were when we were younger. Even in college, we had opportunities to make new friends with classes, clubs, roommates, and the fact that you starting new with a bunch of other people in the same boat.

However, after college, not everyone moves back home to be with their hometown friends, and not everyone has the ability to move into a space near or with their college friends. Making new friends when you move into a new place after college tends to be a bit of a challenge; especially if you are the only new person in the area or the office. I know some of you may be thinking well just got to the local bar or club or whatever but unfortunately, not everyone feels safe or even comfortable doing that. And the last thing anyone wants is to start a friendship that isn’t comfortable. So what are some ways to make new friends now that you’re older? 

  1. Joining Bumble Friends!
    • Bumble; yes I am talking about the dating app bumble it has multiple settings one of those settings is friends! You are able to create and set up a totally different profile from your dating one. It works just like the dating version. You are able to see people’s photos, read their profiles, and swipe right if you like them and left if you do not. It’s a great fee choice and can do it whenever you have free time. 
  2. Join a Workout Class 
    • There are tons of workout classes that you can do! Jing kickboxing, yoga, Zumba, or other class that may appeal to you. Workout classes are a great way to meet people with automatically have a similar interest. Plus with a workout class, there is no deadline or pressure; just an hour of class and you can chat before class and maybe even chat to get food or a coffee after class. The only issue is a lot of workout classes cost money so you may have to spend a bit but you could meet your new BFF. 
  3. Check Social Media 
    • This sounds weird but there are a ton of groups on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram that may have followers that also live near you. I listen to a podcast called the “Lady Gang” and they have a Facebook group and so many women go there when they moe to see if other lady gang members will be in their new area and that’s how they make new friends! It sounds crazy to remind you but be safe with this don’t give out your private personal information all over social media platforms!
  4. Sports/Clubs/Leagues 
    • See if there is a local club or league for a sport you enjoy! My dad and even a few of my guy friends all play in various lacrosse leagues near my hometown. They absolutely love it not only do they get to play what they love but they also get to make new friends and hang out. I even know a few of my girlfriends that play rugby in a league. All of these people are out of college but still making friends and enjoying life. Take a look and see if there is a local club or sports league you may be able to join if not why not try and create one??
  5. Compex Socials
    • If you live in an apartment complex some (not all) have social gatherings or events to help the neighbors meet each other in a safe environment. It’s a great way to kill some free time, but also to meet your neighbors! I have been to some here there are movie nights, game nights, and even just pool bbq. It’s super chill and laid back, plus if you aren’t having fun you’re already home; just a minute walk from your front door tops!
  6. Check at Work
    • Work is a great place to meet people! You have similar interests (I would hope so you work for the same company) and even if you only ever talk or hang out at work at least you have a friend during lunch. I do know work can be a challenge as not every company hires multiple people, some of your co-workers may be older or younger, and some may be very different stages of life. But all your friends don’t have to be around your age or who you bring to the club with you Saturday night. 
  7. Look for other social events/classes
    • Take a look and see if your town or local places are going to host an event. Maybe your local aquarium has an adult nighttime experience for 21+, or even a local art class offers classes to adults at a discount on Tuesday nights. Most towns/cities these days use social media so check those out to see what you can find!

I know how hard it can be to make friends when you move to a new place chasing your dream. I know how scary it can be when you are constantly all by yourself. It can be really disheartening at times and even a huge buzzkill. But you don’t have to be alone; hopefully, these tips above can help you find a friend or a bunch of friends. Everyone deserves one good friend no matter where they are in life. Take some time and try out some of my tips and see what works for you! If you get stumped you know who to ask; your unofficial big sis. – KMH


Note: Just because you move away does not mean you have to make new friends. And making new friends does not mean that you have to throw out your old friends just because you have new ones! Always take a look and figure out what is going to be best for you and your situation.


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