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The first step is the hardest

The first step is the hardest

It’s the age-old saying; the hardest part is always the first step. We all have dreams, goals, and ambitions. However far too often than not a lot of these dreams tend to die in the space they were created; our minds. Which sounds crazy to write because doesn’t everyone want to achieve their goals? Doesn’t everyone want their dreams to become a reality? Yes, yes we do…but too many people look at their dreams and say “be more realistic”. 

I know I am one of the biggest culprits of this. I have an idea or even a dream I become almost intimidated by it. Which ends up with self-doubt killing it far before it leaves my mind. Or even at times, I’ll just say eh I’ll start on Monday (I don’t know why Monday is the “official” start day; it’s the worst day of the week) and Monday rolls around and nothing happens and I repeat the process over and over again until I forget about it. Even worse just refuse to waste any more time on it. Luckily this isn’t always the case. I mean look at me I have this blog; I only spent two maybe three years thinking about it till I took the plunge. But once I took the first step I never looked back and here we are over 50 blog posts and almost a year in! 

When it comes to people, well most people find it incredibly hard to step outside their comfort zone; self-doubt steps in and crushes all our dreams. “There are enough podcasts, becoming a make-up artist takes too long, I don’t know how to do it, I would be making less money than I am now, or it’s just a dream could never be a reality”. I mean I cannot even list the number of excuses I have heard, or have even told myself. Another one of my favorites is I have no idea where to start, and that is in my opinion the second biggest killer of all the dreams in our heads. I’m going to let you in on a little secret: very few people know where to start; they may know what they have to do but in what order can affect a lot of people. 

So how do you take the first step and continue through till you achieve your goal? What can you do to keep your goals alive? Well, I got a few tips and advice for that, as well as a few things I did/learned when created “As told by KMH”. 

  1. Acknowledge the goal you have and want to achieve
    1. This can be as crazy as starting a podcast, losing weight, building a business, creating a product,  buying a house… to as simple as eating healthier, being on time, creating a morning routine, or whatever. You just have to have a goal.
      • For me when I knew I wanted to start an advice/lifestyle/helper blog because I did not have an older sister to go to for a lot of things; and my little sister and I are 13 years apart so its not always easy for her to ask for help, but I still wanted to be there to help. Thus the idea of “As told by KMH” was born.
  2. Commit to it. 
    1. Whatever your goal is, close your eyes, hold your nose and take the plunge; go all in. If it is starting a podcast, creating a name, if it’s saving for a house, creating that savings account named “dream home”, if it is creating a morning routine set that first-morning alarm; whatever it may be you have to start to get the dream rolling. And fully commit to it. 
      • The first step/commitment I made was I came up with the name As Told By KMH I went home and purchased the URL/blog forum for it. I knew once I invested $$ into it there was no going back for me. 
After I purchased the needed things for As Told By KMH, one of the next things I did was dabble in logos and such
  1. Create a list of small goals 
    1. Small goals can be anything but they should be mini checkpoints to help you achieve the overall goal. I recommend daily goals, weekly goals, and/or even monthly goals.
    2. Daily goals: set goals you should do every day. These should be achievable daily goals (run a mile, set 10 minutes to brainstorm, set aside $10 bucks). No one expects you or wants you to do it all overnight. 
    3. Set weekly or even monthly goals: These should be like little checkpoints along the way. The best part about monthly goals is you know they may be a bit difficult as no one knows what truly going to happen in 30 days. It’s good to push for something but it also makes sure you acknowledge that if you wanted your book done by the first of October, but by September 25th your 30 pages of your first draft of your college case study is due your book may have to push back a week or two maybe a month that’s okay…like I said goals are checkpoints toward the end goal.
      • In the format of a couple of weeks prepping for my blog, I created To-do lists/goals such as just researching how to blog. Some were even in-depth as creating blog topics, create and starting to work on social media platforms. All the things that go into my blog. 
  2. Keep records. Write it all down. 
    1. Write everything down. Every idea, every thought, whatever you have to do, want to do, need to do whatever it is, keep a record of it. Not only is it good to look back on but it also helps you remember the idea. 
    2. Have a designated spot or spots for recording said thoughts
      • For me when it comes to my blog I have a handy notebook where I brainstorm/create the main points of each blog I want to do. I also use my notes on my phone when I am on the road. Lastly, I have a separate calendar that keeps deadlines and the posting schedule of what gets posted when. 
A quick look at the “As told by KMH” notebook
  1. Hold yourself accountable 
    1. Accountability is really hard; mainly because when it comes to dreams or goals there is no general manager or boss who is going to yell at you for failing and threaten to fire you. You are HR, you are the general manager, you are the boss, and you are the CEO. Because of this, you have to be harsh/serious and hold yourself accountable. 
    2. ACCOUNTABILITY DOES NOT MEAN BEING CRUEL, MEAN, OR HARSH ON YOURSELF. Life happens accountability also means being understanding.
      • When it comes to me and my blog I know my consistency isn’t the best. The way I have been holding myself accountable is understanding when I need to take breaks as well as give myself deadlines. (Ex: I want Wednesday’s blog typed up by Sunday; Monday I want to edit and review it, Tuesday we’ll add it all to the pre-blog page (photos, links, etc.) and make sure the automatic post setup is done. 
      • I also tell myself flat out when I feel like I am failing that I am not perfect and we can restart tomorrow.
  2. Keep it Front and Center 
    1. One of the best ways to make sure you keep the goal alive is to keep it front and center. Make it your Lock Screen, laptop background, IPad background, write it on your mirror, piece of paper at your desk. Do something where you are going to see it every single day and be motivated by it. 
      • When I started my Blog I put the name on a piece of paper and hung it on the back of the front door to my apartment this way every day I saw it. Now whatever the blog post topics are for the coming weeks I have them on my mirror. Helps me stay focused and motivated. 
  3. Be Honest
    1. Be honest with yourself; the only person who is going to be hurt by you lying is going to be yourself. The more you lie to yourself the more you’re going to push the dream away. 
      • Every time I have lied to myself of “I spent 15 minutes brainstorming today” hurt my writing because I was honest and gave a half-assed effort and wasn’t proud of the blog I posted. 
  4. Don’t be afraid 
    1. You’re going to have negative thoughts, doubts, and everything else under the sun; but do not let that stop you. You have to either let those thoughts go, use them as motivation, or embrace them. Failing happens but it’s also how we learn and become better. If you do not believe me check out I hope you fail
      • I fail daily when it comes to the life of my blog, I miss blog posts, I set the auto blog post at the wrong date or time, I forget to link social media accounts, I forget I even have social media accounts and so many more things but because I fail I’m able to learn and succeed.  
  5. Check-in with yourself 
    1. Once you start the dream that does not mean that dream stays as it is. When you start working toward it, it may change, evolve, grow and become something totally different. Make sure your check isn’t with yourself about what dream/goal you’re chasing as well as that you’re happy. 
      • I try to do this every 3 months to make sure I’m happy, make sure I’m still working toward my overall dream/goal. It isn’t a big production usually it is me just sitting down and reviewing my notes. Making sure I’m happy, confident, and comfortable in the direction I am going. 
  6. Celebrate your success
    1. Going after your dream is a lot of work so remember to celebrate the success. No matter how minor or how major, celebrate your success. Be happy and proud of everything you accomplished. I’m not saying when you start throwing yourself a feast, but maybe have a cupcake? I mean you’re achieving steps/checkpoints in order to make your dreams come true.
      • When I officially launched my blog I had dinner with a few close friends; nothing huge but kinda more along the lines of “yeah I did it!” When I reach a year I may do something else too. And after each blog post, I may indulge in a milkshake or a cupcake. 

We all want to be the best version of ourselves but the change that comes with chasing your dreams is uncomfortable. Being uncomfortable and having struggles isn’t always welcome. However, being uncomfortable comes with chasing your dreams, goals, and ambitions. I beg you not to let those thoughts or feelings hold you back. I say it all the time every single person deserves to make their dreams a reality. My biggest hope for you reading this is that you find the courage and strength to take the first step. 

Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just literally Twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you something great will come of it. – We Bought a Zoo

So whatever your dream is, whatever your goal is, take the first step. You’re not too old, you’re not too young, the time is never going to be perfect, and it doesn’t matter if it’s already been done or never has been. Your dream is your dream and you deserve to make it a reality. So don’t wait, don’t forget about it. Take a deep breath and take the first step. I believe in you, I got your back, and you can always reach out; to me for support, a cheerleader, or even more advice. Go get ’em! -Your unofficially big sis KMH



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